Wild Love

1. Reality is an interconnected web of energy-consciousness.

"At the level of deep reality, the universe is a massive interconnected web of energy."

Beyond the visible. The book introduces a revolutionary worldview, suggesting that the "solid world" we perceive is merely "surface reality." Beneath this visible layer lies a "deep reality"—an interconnected web of energy-consciousness, the very Source of all being. This perspective merges science and spirituality, moving beyond a mechanical, meaningless universe to a vibrant, conscious, and evolving one.

Consciousness shapes matter. Pioneers in physics, like David Bohm and Amit Goswami, propose that consciousness, not matter, is the fundamental building block of the universe. Our thoughts, beliefs, and desires literally shape and create our physical reality. This means the world "out there" is intimately connected to what happens "in here," challenging the notion of objective observation and highlighting our role as conscious participants.

Energy as the bridge. William Tiller's model suggests a hierarchy: consciousness creates energy, which then creates matter. Energy acts as the crucial bridge between our inner world and outer reality. This energy-based understanding is fundamental to grasping "wild love," as the flow of this energy determines whether we create experiences of heaven or hell in our lives.

2. Your emotions are a direct guidance system to your true self.

"Your emotions convey your current vibrational frequency."

Inner compass. Everyone is born with an innate guidance system: our emotions. These feelings provide constant feedback about our "vibrational state" and how aligned we are with Source energy. When we feel joyful, free, or empowered, we are connected to Source; when we feel negative or trapped, we are disconnecting.

Two core emotions. All emotions stem from two basic states: love (expansion, feeling good, connection) or fear (contraction, feeling bad, separation).

• Love-based emotions: unconditional love, joy, gratitude, inner peace, freedom, passion, optimism, trust.
• Fear-based emotions: anxiety, guilt, shame, frustration, depression, anger, jealousy, insecurity, blame.
  Negative emotions are simply alarm bells, signaling a disruption in our energy flow, like kinks in a garden hose.

Taking responsibility. The ego often blames external circumstances for negative emotions, believing that if others or situations would change, we would feel better. However, the book emphasizes that our emotional state is always an "inside job." We attract events through our own vibrations and choose how to interpret them. Recognizing this brings immense freedom, as we realize we hold the power to shift our feelings and, consequently, our reality.

3. The ego's fear-based beliefs create "tame love" and suffering.

"The ego is only capable of conditional love."

Illusion of separateness. The ego, operating from "surface reality," perceives itself as separate from the world, others, and Source. This illusion breeds three core beliefs: "I am not safe," "I am not loved," and "I am not in control." These beliefs drive the ego's desperate search for approval, control, and security externally.

Conditional pseudo-love. The ego's "tame love" is conditional, demanding, and manipulative. It says, "I will love you only if you behave as I want, fit my image, or meet my needs." This creates co-dependent relationships characterized by:

• Blaming: "You made me feel bad, it's your fault!"
• Shaming: "You are bad/unworthy of love."
• Taming: Controlling others through demands, threats, or guilt.
  These patterns stem from fear and insecurity, not genuine love.

Self-defeating strategies. The ego's attempts to protect itself—through perfectionism, people-pleasing, withdrawal, or control—are counterproductive. They reinforce disconnection from our true selves and others, leading to inner conflict, resentment, and a "civil war" within. This keeps us trapped in lower emotional vibrations, preventing true intimacy and fulfillment.

4. "Wild love" is unconditional, expansive, and liberates your potential.

"Wild love is our natural state of unconditional love and acceptance, and ever-flowing vitality."

Beyond conditions. Wild love is the unconditional love of the Deep Self, flowing freely from Source. It embraces self, others, and the world exactly as they are, without judgment, demands, or expectations. This love is inherently liberating, expansive, and joyful, fostering authenticity and growth.

Embracing wholeness. Unlike tame love, which splits aspects of self and others into "good" and "bad," wild love sees the "perfect imperfection" in everyone. It acknowledges both light and dark, strengths and vulnerabilities, as integral parts of a unique human tapestry. This radical acceptance allows energy to flow freely, healing internal conflicts and fostering genuine connection.

Freedom and flow. Wild love sets others free to be their authentic selves, without trying to control or mold them. It recognizes that true love cannot be imprisoned or limited; it is boundless and ever-evolving. When we love wildly, we radiate unconditional acceptance, inspiring others to connect with their own Deep Self and unleash their full potential.

5. Transcending duality (good/bad, right/wrong) is essential for wild love.

"Whenever you think in terms of right and wrong, good and bad, black and white, you are trapped in the dualistic world of the ego — which puts you beyond the reach of wild love."

The Tree of Good and Evil. The biblical myth of eating from the Tree of Good and Evil symbolizes humanity's fall into duality and judgment, leading to separation from unconditional love. This ego-driven mindset divides the world into opposing forces:

• Good/Bad
• Right/Wrong
• Safe/Dangerous
  This splitting creates inner conflict and outer strife, fueling wars, prejudice, and relationship breakdowns.

Judgment blocks love. Judgment is conditional love. It makes us fearful, ashamed, and guilt-ridden, constantly assessing ourselves and others against external standards. This self-righteousness or self-condemnation prevents the soul from "lying down in the grass" of oneness, as Rumi describes. It reinforces the ego's defenses and keeps us disconnected from Source.

Radical acceptance. Moving beyond duality means embracing "radical acceptance"—a profound "Yes" to all of life, including perceived "faults" and "imperfections." It means understanding that everyone is doing their best from their own perspective, and that even hurtful behavior stems from disconnection, not inherent badness. This perspective dissolves the need for blame and forgiveness, allowing love to flow freely.

6. Choosing happiness over "being good" aligns you with Source energy.

"All of this means giving up being ‘good’ in favour of being happy."

Ego's trap of "goodness." Traditional patriarchal religions and societal norms often teach us to strive for "goodness," believing it will earn love or salvation. This ego-driven pursuit leads to:

• Self-sacrifice and martyrdom
• Suppressing authentic desires and emotions
• Conforming to external expectations
• Feeling guilty for natural impulses
  This path creates neurosis and disconnects us from our inner guidance, making us believe that "suffering is good for the soul."

Happiness as divine alignment. The Deep Self, aligned with Source, desires joy and freedom. Choosing happiness means prioritizing our inner emotional guidance over external standards. When we feel joyful, expansive, and free, we are in harmony with Source energy. This is not selfish; it's the most effective way to radiate love and positively impact the world.

The Emotional Scale. Emotions serve as a "vibrational scale." Moving up this scale, from despair/guilt to anger/frustration, and eventually to hope/joy/love, indicates increasing alignment with Source. Even choosing anger over depression is a step in the right direction, as it signifies more energy flow and less disempowerment. The goal is to consciously choose thoughts and actions that elevate our emotional state.

7. Personal and global challenges are catalysts for conscious evolution.

"Crisis seems to precede transformation."

The hero's journey. Life's challenges, whether personal crises or global issues, are "Calls to Adventure"—invitations to leave old ways of being and embrace a more expansive Self. These moments of "divine discontent" push us to grow, learn, and transform, much like a caterpillar metamorphosing into a butterfly.

Contrast fuels desire. Suffering and contrast are not punishments but essential elements of an evolving universe. They act as a "springboard for desire," clarifying what we truly want and launching us into new visions for the future. Without the "pigswill" of discomfort, we wouldn't appreciate the "ice-cream" of our desires, nor would we be motivated to change.

Transmuting lead into gold. Our personal wounds and struggles, when faced with awareness and acceptance, can be transmuted into gifts. This alchemical process allows us to integrate our "dross" (ego's darkness) with our "gold" (Deep Self's light), leading to profound wisdom and expanded consciousness. By healing our individual issues, we contribute to the collective awakening of humanity.

8. Family patterns and misguided loyalty can unconsciously limit your freedom.

"Children unconsciously aspire to equal their parents in suffering."

Inherited riverbeds. We often unconsciously replicate the "riverbeds of relating" from our families of origin, mistaking these familiar patterns for love. These inherited emotional habits—such as control, sacrifice, blame, or denial—are passed down through generations, creating "systemic entanglements" that limit our potential.

Guilt and loyalty's grip. Two powerful systemic forces, guilt and misguided loyalty, keep us trapped in these old patterns. Guilt, often internalized from childhood shaming, makes us feel unworthy and compels us to seek approval or self-sacrifice. Loyalty, while seemingly virtuous, can bind us to dysfunctional family rules and prevent us from following our authentic path, effectively "murdering our soul" by suppressing our freedom.

Breaking the chain. Recognizing these unconscious patterns is the first step to breaking free. By honoring our ancestors without replicating their suffering, and by choosing our own emotional guidance over external demands, we can forge new, healthy riverbeds. This liberates not only ourselves but also future generations from the "chain of pain," allowing love to flow freely and authentically.

9. Self-love is the foundation for all authentic and wild relationships.

"Self-love is a prerequisite for loving others."

The Golden Rule's true meaning. The adage "Love others as you love yourself" is often distorted into self-sacrifice. However, true self-love—unconditional acceptance of every aspect of ourselves—is the essential starting point. Without it, we can only offer conditional love, driven by our own needs for approval, control, or security.

Mirror of self-worth. Our relationships perfectly mirror our relationship with ourselves. If we love ourselves conditionally, we attract partners who reflect that. If we criticize ourselves, we attract criticism. The "Other" is never the problem; they are a mirror reflecting our own inner state. To change our relationships, we must first change our self-love.

Authenticity and boundaries. Self-love enables us to be authentic, speaking our truth without fear of judgment or rejection. It allows us to set healthy boundaries, ensuring we don't sacrifice our needs or emotions to please others. This self-centeredness (in a healthy, expansive sense) is not selfish; it's the wellspring from which genuine, unconditional love for others can flow abundantly.

10. You are a conscious co-creator, shaping your reality from the inside out.

"We are creative beings who literally birth our reality, moment by moment, through the vibrations that we emit."

The artist of your life. We are all "garden designers" of our lives, choosing every aspect of our reality through our thoughts, emotions, and desires. Life is a gift, and we are free to create a "heavenly paradise" or a "squalid patch of lawn." Our power lies in the present moment, in consciously aligning our vibrations with what we truly want.

Clarifying desires. An essential step in conscious co-creation is clarifying our desires. By focusing on "why" we want something, we align our vibrations with its essence, attracting it at an energetic level. This process helps weed out desires that stem from fear, shame, or external expectations, ensuring we pursue what genuinely resonates with our Deep Self.

Becoming a laser beam. Our consciousness is incredibly powerful when coherent. Just as a laser beam's focused light is thousands of times more potent than a scattered light bulb, aligning our thoughts and desires without contradictory vibrations allows miracles to manifest rapidly. By consistently holding a positive vision, anticipating joyfully, and releasing resistance, we "become" our future self energetically, and reality must follow.

Last updated: January 7, 2026